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June 2017 FAMILY MATTERS Newsletter

Monday, June 12, 2017

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 NEW Socks and Underwear (women and children)

After School Snacks

Juice Boxes








WHAT: Elwood DQ Fundraiser

WHERE: Elwood Dairy Queen
            1920 S. Anderson St.
            Elwood, IN 46036

WHEN: Wednesday, July 12th
           4:00 p.m.-10:00 p.m.

A portion of sales will benefit Alternatives!




WHAT: Purse Auction &
           Wine Pull

WHERE: The Wellington Fishers
             9775 N by NE Blvd.
             Fishers, IN 46037

WHEN: Saturday, August 26th
           11:00 a.m.

COST: $35 per person

Contact Ashley with questions or if you are interested in being a sponsor!





Don't forget YOU 
can support Alternatives through your ON-LINE Shopping! 

Yes, AmazonSmile will donate between 1-6% of your purchases to Alternatives when you log on to AmazonSmile. What do you have to lose? We gained $67 to help victims of domestic violence in just a 3-month period. Click on the picture below and bookmark it for your future purchases.







 With the Community Rewards Program, every time you shop at Kroger/Pay-Less with your Plus Card, you give to Alternatives! What a great way to multiply the impact of your grocery shopping.

It's quick and easy to sign up, clickhere





 Mary Jo Lee

By Colt Carpenter and Ashley Waterbury-Carpenter

Michael and Johna Lee

Melissa Stanton



 Thank you to members of our Advocacy Club -
those who make a small contribution each month to ensure our services continue. You may feel like your monthly contribution "isn't much" - but to us it means the world. Over the course of your lifetime, all those small gifts add up to a substantial contribution. We appreciate your continued and dependable support!

To join today, contact:

Andrea Carlile at:






Did you know that Alternatives receives funding in exchange for old, used cell phones? Do you have any lying around that you don't use anymore? Does your place of employment have piles of unclaimed phones in a "lost and found"? Drop them off at the shelter and turn those useless phones into impactful funding for our organization!





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June 22, 2017 is PTSD Awareness Day


When you hear PTSD, you often think of veterans of war, those who have experienced the battlefield and watched their fellow service members fall in the line of duty. This is most certainly the case, but there is also PTSD for those who have experienced another type of battlefield; those who have faced domestic and/or sexual violence. In fact, 94% of rape victims report post-traumatic stress disorder within two weeks after the rape. Symptoms of PTSD include:

  • Frequent nightmares, flashbacks, or intrusive memories about the abuse or violence
  • Physical illnesses such as headaches, stomach aches, ulcers, or pains
  • Avoidance of situations that bring back memories of the violence
  • A tendency to become violent, erratic, or irrational themselves
  • Constantly feeling jumpy, on high alert, or constantly anxious or angry
  • Drug or alcohol use to try and numb painful feelings

PTSD can keep the victim from being able to move positively forward in his or her life even after the threat is removed. There is hope for victims experiencing PTSD. If you believe you may have these symptoms or know someone who does, click here for more helpful information. 



'Ava' hated when the anxiety would come. It was especially horrible in the middle of night, like something choking, grasping at her and leaving her out of breath. She felt trapped in her own mind, unable to push away the fear. The thoughts and nightmares were racing in her mind, chasing her, catching her, and leaving her broken. The threat was gone, but there were triggers. The fear of violence was still very real for Ava. She wasn't sleeping. Like a zombie - fearful during the day and terrified at night. This could not keep going on.

PTSD was a common word and she knew the definition. It wasn't until she saw a counselor that she believed she suffered from it. She thought she could get it under control by herself. Yet, despite her situation being vastly different outward, inwardly she was trapped by fear and thoughts - memories she could not shake. It took months of therapy, but eventually, the fear lessened and the triggers disappeared. Ava started sleeping again and realized she had a bright and different future!

Many of the men, women, and children leaving abusive situations who turn to our agency come with PTSD. Whether they are seeking support and assistance through our advocacy services or refuge at our shelter, the agency works diligently to refer those suffering to professionals for services they need to overcome their trauma and move forward. Ryan Robertson, Care Coordinator/PATH Provider of Aspire, will even meet residents at the shelter to provide therapy and coping skills for those suffering with post-traumatic stress or other issues resulting from the abuse. Through case management at Alternatives, victims have hope! 




'Tiffany' arrived at the doorstep of Alternatives with her two little boys, $3 in her wallet, and no car, job, or family support. She was new to Indiana and didn't know about any of the resources available. Tiffany was in denial about her abusive husband and she thought she could never leave. However, a friend supported her, helped her pack, and convinced her to turn to Alternatives for help, "I needed a caring shoulder to cry on and a pillar of strength to lean on and Alternatives was that for us!"

At the time, Tiffany thought that she would be a housewife forever, even though she was once an educator. "By trade I was a teacher, but my self-confidence and morale was so low, I doubted that I could ever go back to that profession."

Today, Tiffany is teaching elementary again and envisions obtaining a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership. Tiffany is remarried in a loving and healthy relationship. Her entire family is flourishing. Tiffany says this to others facing abuse, "Though your life may not be what you had imagined for yourself right now, please remember that if you lean on the Lord with all your strength, He will guide you through, restore you, and use this for good." 



The easiest way to prevent PTSD is to prevent the trauma from ever occurring. Alternatives' mission is not only to intervene when there is domestic or sexual violence, but also to educate prevention strategies. We do this in a myriad of ways, from providing bystander intervention training to bar employees and owners to providing prevention education sessions to middle and high school students about dating, domestic, and sexual violence.

James Pitts, one of Alternatives' Prevention Specialists, says this of the high school and middle school students he instructs, "The main topic of our message is healthy relationships. Kids need to be aware of not only unhealthy relationships, but how to function in a healthy one as well." James believes that one important lesson kids learn is trust. The prevention program strives to teach that trust is earned and not gained just through a position or by carrying a title. The instruction has led to some students coming to the realization they are not in healthy relationships and need to make a change.

Rachel Dennis, Hancock County's Outreach Advocate, also instructs students through prevention programming. "I think the most important lesson gained from these presentations is that things really do happen. In high school it can seem like none of these bad things happen and they definitely won't happen to you. It opens their eyes and minds to the realization that these things happen and are common." Hopefully, with these prevention programs in place, the students will learn valuable lessons on how to prevent this kind of violence and how to create a safer community for all! 



We could not accomplish our mission without your generous donations!







Did you know? Kids develop PTSD too. Thank you for supporting our mission to help families who are facing the lasting effects of domestic or sexual violence. You make a difference!







Alternatives Inc.
P. O. Box 1302
Anderson, IN 46015

Local Crisis: (765) 643-0200
Toll-free Crisis: (866) 593-9999
Hancock County: (317) 462-8777
Administration: (765) 643-0218


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